What are some of the triggers of anger?
Three levels:
- Surface-level: a healthy body supports a healthy lifestyle.
- Deeper: hurt– when our egos become hurt as a result of expectation
- Deepest: attachment– the main cause of anger
- Attachment leads to expectation which leads to insistance on our wishes being fulfilled
- The difference between a like and a preference is the insistence that it has to be the way we want
- Understanding that there’s more of a chance of us being disappointed than being satisfied (this is simple supply-demand, really)
- Not possible to not have expectations but we must be free of desire to have these expectations fulfilled
- Constant anger will take its toll- constant expenditure of energy from the body being in ‘fight-or-flight’ mode
How to Rise Above Anger:
- Be aware of the anger itself. If you are not aware of a problem, how can you fix it? Remember: temper takes you to trouble, pride keeps you there
- Be aware of the cause. Awareness of the cause to intervene. Do a cost-benefit analysis. What will be gained and what will be lost as a result of the anger? No one wants to be around sorrow
Remember: the two most precious things are- health and peace of mind- are you willing to give those away?
- Be aware of the effect. Effects of anger will be with you forever.
Remember: when you sense being angry, invoke the Knowledge and your anger with abate
Activity:
Walk through an experience where you have been angry and share using the framework that was presented.
RAW:
Count how many people you talk to face-to-face and observe how you interact with different people.